holiday fun

i am finally on leave!!!  which explains why i am having that extra bit of time to finally do a post :)

it is also impossible for me to be resistant to all the holiday fun, Christmas spirit and that general goofy, lazy feeling that is floating around in the air.

unfortunately we had a bad start to our holiday where they broke into my parents house.  they stole most of their electronics including their 42 inch plasma screen.  it made me really sad because my parents are such good people and i know that they have worked very hard for their belongings (note – THEIR belongings, not for someone else to take!).  also they are already on vacation which was kind of a bad spoiler to their two week holiday.  anyhow they have accepted this terrible turn of events and they are determined to make the rest of their holiday a good one.  we are all somehow touched by the black smear of crime, however there are still good people out there and people who are determined to stay in South Africa and make the best of it.  this makes it all worth while.

tomorrow we are joining my parents in the lovely, warm bushveld.  we will be spending Christmas next to the pool, eating my cranberry glazed gammon and my dad’s leg of lamb slowly roasted in the webber.  i am also hoping to whip up a chocolate and cherry trifle just because i’ve been a good girl this year ;)

here’s to hoping you have a wonderful and peaceful Christmas day with the family and loved ones.

till next time . .

Published in: on December 21, 2011 at 10:58 am  Comments (1)  

loving the simple things in life

as i sit in here, glass of chardonnay half full (or half empty?? whateva!), cigarette smoke churning up a cloud in front of my pc screen, i love to contemplate how easy and comfortable my life is.  how do i love routine.  recently when i had a “breakdown” about everything, hubby suggested that i try new things, meet new people, be more spontaneous.  what he doesn’t get though is that i am an extrovert (however in my personal capacity i tend to be the introvert), meet new people everyday on the gautrain, communicate loads with the 140 people at work, trying new things such as mosaic and yoga and the list goes on.

 

if you were to try new things and give up old things such as in the movie “eat pray love”, how comfortable would you be with that?  would you miss the comfort and boring routine of everyday?  i would love the adventure but must admit i would feel strange.  not lying in my familiar cranky bed showered with dogs.

 

in my opinion, this life of mine, be it boring to some, is what keeps me grounded.

 

my ideal night is not spent out and about, but rather with hubby and the dogs, sharing a glorious bottle of red, cooking dinner and chatting the night away.

 

do you love the way your life is or do you long for change?  my advise is, that if you were to long for sparkle of adventure, is to make a night of it.

if you have kids, and feel like you’ve missed out on the nightlife, go out and go clubbing for one night.  but i would guarantee you that you would return home and feel blessed.

 

 

Published in: on November 1, 2011 at 5:33 pm  Comments (2)  

gefrustreerd

i am extremely frustrated when you are standing in front of your crossroad, and you don’t know which road to choose.

it all boils down to one thing:  “I. DO. NOT. WANT. TO. WORK. ANYMORE.”

or at least the work that i am doing now.

i am 27, married with no kids living with my darling husband in our big new home.  we can have everything from everywhere yet we still do not have any children.

i am beyond the point of asking “why why why??” and i am slightly coming to the point of accepting my fate.  well not yet.  because i know me & hubby would make the *BEST* parents ever for our children simply because we have a LOT of love to give.  why must i accept my fate when there are people out there flushing their newborns down the toilet like a dead goldfish?

i simply refuse.

now, before you think that i am dwelling from the work topic – my work is extremely, dreadfully stressful.  i cannot cope anymore with the various aspects of it and long nothing more than to stay at home, being a mother.

because i am already experiencing difficulty conceiving, the added stress load is making things worse.  when i (one day*) do fall pregnant i will be classified as “high risk” because of my previous miscarriage and there is no way that i am going to carry my child and do the stressful work that i am doing today.

so where do i stand before the different forks at my road?

1) do i quit my job

2) do i quit my job and look for something less stressful

3) do i finish my degree

4) if my degree is finished then what?

5) do i quit my job and work endlessly at falling pregnant

6) how will we survive financially even though you always do?

i am 27 and i need to take my future into careful consideration as i don’t want to be 35 then all of a sudden decide to start a family.

 

if you have some important decisions to make which leaves you feeling more confused than clearheaded about your future, what do you do?

 

 

Published in: on May 30, 2011 at 6:52 am  Comments (2)  

the importance of some old school

me and hubby and our 3 furball kiddo’s moved into our wonderful new home last week.  tomorrow we are going to buy *our very first dining table* :)

to me this is important in a few ways:

1) i just love the romance of it – setting a table for two with delicious food, good wine and candles accompanied by endless talking over dinner

2) the diet aspect of it: a) looking and actually concentrating what you eat helps your brain to send the message quicker to your tummy that your full.  when you eat with a big plate of food on your lap whilst watching tv, you tend to gobble down your dinner while your mind is being occupied.

b) my hubby – he can easily finish two huge plates in a go and that’s because he watches tv, doesn’t think about how much he’s eating and he doesn’t absorb every little delicious content therein.  and that all because he didn’t grow up with eating meals around a table.

3) learning you table manners – where were the days when you had to properly set a table according to how your mother taught you (placing the fork on the left and knife on the right… umm i think??) and when you had to properly excuse yourself when you had to leave the table and not sitting around burbing & gouging down your food?

to me, not just the dining table applies to old school but also less pc/tv games, less playstation, less infront of the tv as a kid and actually going out in your back garden and playing with friends or your barbie!

the days when rugby on saturday nights were less important than church on Sundays and when anybody 10 years your senior you had to show proper respect for!

i am not preaching and i am all for this new age stuff however i like to be balanced and some old school stuff will surely keep you grounded.

Published in: on May 27, 2011 at 3:09 pm  Comments (2)  

if this is true then…..?

i was in absolute awe when reading this post in news24 about a monster plagueing a small karoo town named steytlerville:

“A ‘monster’ plaguing the sleepy Karoo town of Steytlerville struck again over the Easter weekend, Eastern Cape police said on Monday.

Another two sightings of the “shape-shifting creature” were reported on Sunday evening, said Warrant Officer Zandisile Nelani .

“Two men were walking near a tavern when they saw another man wearing a black jacket. One of the men, identified only as Nozipho, went up to the stranger and asked him, “What is your problem?” said Nelani.

A dog or a cow?

When the stranger did not respond, Nozipho went closer and saw that the man had no head. The man then turned into a dog that was “very angry” and “as big as a cow”, Nelani said.

He said that as Nozipho and his friend ran away, the monster allegedly turned on another group of people in the same road. “They said it turned into a big monkey, and then it was gone,” Nelani said.

He said that since the monster was spotted near the tavern, people were afraid to go there at night.

Last week police were told by residents that the monster changed shape while one looked at it. One man had reported that it changed from a man wearing a suit into a pig and then into a bat.

There had also been rumours that the monster could fly. Previously, the monster had only been spotted near the church. It had even been seen peering through the windows during a service, but had vanished by the time the congregation came outside.

Nelani said that the community had dubbed the monster “Bawokozi”, meaning ‘brother-in-law’.

Photograph

Sightings of the monster began over a month ago when it was seen by mourners attending two separate funerals, Nelani said.

He said that the community requested a meeting with police because they were frightened of it. Police agreed to work with residents, but asked them to try to take a photograph of it as evidence.

Nelani said that a photograph had since been taken of the monster resting under a tree.

He said that when the photo was taken the monster had been in human form but when the photo was developed an unknown animal was visible in the picture.

“It is a very strange thing happening in Steytlerville, but no one has been hurt by it,” Nelani said.”

this made me wonder:  if this can happen, who says supernatural/horror fantasies such as vampires, werewolves, ghosts etc. isn’t out there?

every story ever told, be it frankenstein or the yetti, had to come from somewhere – where there’s smoke there’s a fire right?

how far are we from the truth about made up stories such as Twilight, The Wolfman, Dracula etc.?

could these stories, in fact stem from previous sightings and experiences?

a person’s mind can only make up so much, and you can only choose not to believe but what if they are truly among us right at this very moment…?

Published in: on May 2, 2011 at 6:37 am  Comments (2)  

growing up

it took me 26 and a half years to start growing up. 

being bitter, negative, jealous and cynical can be self destructive.

last week i just took time to read my bible with an open heart and learning to listen.

i have openend my self up not too be bad tempered, loud and in need to control every situation.  this have taught me to open up my eyes and to see something beautiful in literally everything.. from listening to my husband demand another take on a situation and to just watching life happen.

i am more content, patient and i let life take me by the hand and lead to me to wherever… i also open my ears and heart to God and i try to listen to what he is teaching me.

i am not sorry that it took me this long to “grow up” – i am taking each day as it comes and i bask in it’s blessings.

hoping you had a wonderful easter weekend.

Peace

x

Published in: on April 26, 2011 at 7:22 am  Comments (2)  

admitting you are a bad wife

if you could rate yourself as a wife – would you get 10/10?

i would certainly not. 

my husband shared details of his day at work and he was very excited about it and i made a very catty comment.

we did not speak to each other for quite a few days.

yip this is the type of wife i am.  never straying to raise my opinion or put myself always first.

after apologizing to hubby i broke out into tears and told that i do not know if our marriage would work.

“why?” he asked

 ”because i’m simply such a bad wife.”

“i read up on how to save & recognize the bad signs that your marriage is headed for a divorce, and i realised that our marriage didn’t have that signs, but i am simply enforcing those signs on you.”

after explaining to him what i did and what type of person and more, wife i was, he listened and explained that i am simply a wonderful wife – if i want to be.

since then we have patched things up and everything is going wonderful.

trying to fix the problem was not enough.  i had to admit it for it to become a reality and for me to try and work at it.

so maybe next time you have a small bump or mountain, try and talk about it – it may help.  Alot.

Published in: on March 2, 2011 at 11:46 am  Comments (1)  

top 10 most haunted places in south africa

i would love to quit my day job, throw all my ghost hunting tools in the boot and take a roadtrip around south africa to locate the scariest places!

unfortunately, ghosts won’t pay until “that” book is released, so i’ll have to keep on daydreaming…

until then, keep an eye open for these places when visiting some of these parts in SA.

Top 10 Scariest Places in South Africa

South Africa is filled with haunted places; ghosts can be found at sea, on old battlefields, sitting with you in a restaurant, or in your mind. Here are 10 to send a shiver down your spine
 

10. Doornkloof

Issie Smuts, the wife of statesman Jan Christiaan Smuts, was adamant that their Irene house, Doornkloof, now Smuts House, was haunted.

Of most interest was her regularly sighting of a ghost of an elderly man with ‘a Kruger-style set of whiskers’. He is purported to be the keeper of a secret regarding the whereabouts of Boer treasure buried on the property.

9. The Castle of Good Hope

The Castle of Good Hope is the oldest building still in use in South Africa. And the most haunted. For over a century it was the centre of life in the settlement. There was ceremony, glittering balls, and extravagant banquets.

There was also disease and the horror of executions. It is little wonder that it is crammed with apparitions, including those of Pieter Noodt, the most hated of all Cape governors, and the beautiful Lady Ann Barnard who haunts the ballroom.

8. The Old Gaol

Grahamstown is known as the City of Saints, but it was not always so blest. Under martial law for much of its early existence, its main social occasion appears to have been public beatings and hangings.

Those condemned to death were shackled and led from the dank Old Gaol to the military parade ground where the punishment was administered. The last person to be publicly hanged there was Henry Nicholls, who can sometimes be seen doing the dead man’s walk along the route to where the gallows once stood.

7. Africana Museum

The Kimberley Public Library, now the Africana Museum, was founded in 1882 and housed opposite the Kimberley Club in a magnificent building with wrought-iron gallery, spiral staircase and sparkling chandeliers. Dyer, the city’s first qualified librarian, arrived in 1900 from England, where at one time he had worked in Buckingham Palace.

But he was also a fraudster, misappropriating funds until auditors caught up with him in 1908. Rather than go to prison, he took cyanide, and his ghost can still be seen dressed in Victorian clothing rearranging books and files in the stacks section.

6. The Port Elizabeth Public Library

The Port Elizabeth Public Library on Market Square is one of the most beautiful buildings in South Africa. Erected in 1902, it is a fine example of Art Nouveau Artistic Baronial with dramatic Elizabethan touches.

Its resident ghost is of caretaker Robert Thomas who devoted the last 31-years of his life to the library. Since his death in 1943, staff say doors open and bang shut of their own accord; books are removed from shelves and stacked on the floor; and books fall for no reason.

5. The Nottingham Road Hotel

The Nottingham Road Hotel, the oldest country establishment in KwaZulu-Natal, is possessed by an exuberant spirit.

Thought to be that of a barmaid, she turns tricks in one of the rooms, opens taps, moves ornamental copper pots in the pub, rings the antique decommissioned service bell and even deflates the tyres of problem guests.

4. Matjiesfontein

At Matjiesfontein, the Victorian village in the Karoo, the past and the present are inseparably intertwined. So do not be surprised to find that some of the visitors are staying forever.

Among these are the spirits of founder Jimmy Logan and Lucy, who has never checked out of her hotel room. Wearing only a negligee, she’s often spotted in the corridor.

3. Rudd House

For many ghost-watchers, the fabulously spine-chilling Rudd House in Kimberley is the archetypal South African haunted house. Sprawling and squat, its deep shaded verandahs lend to the air of menace.

Inside, a baby can sometimes be heard crying in the nursery and there is often the terrifying clatter of glass and cutlery being flung on the floor in one of the two dispensaries. Enter if you dare.

 

2. Uniondale

At the Barandas turnoff 19 kilometres before Uniondale, you’ll find one of the world’s most famous ghosts – the Uniondale hitchhiker.

On a cold, rainy Good Friday night in 1968, Maria Charlotte Roux was killed there in a car accident. It is said that since then the apparition of a hitchhiker matching the description of Roux appears at the spot every Easter.

1. Southern Seas

The southern seas of Africa are among the most treacherous in the world. Circumnavigating the continent was especially risky for earlier boats – and if navigating the waters wasn’t tough enough they also had to contend with the most famous ghost ship in maritime history.

Legend has it that in the mid-17 th century a Dutch trader, Der Fliegende Hollander – The Flying Dutchman, – ran into trouble while rounding the Cape. It now sails the seas in search of other ships to take messages home to their loved ones.

Published in: on February 22, 2011 at 11:43 am  Comments (10)  

guilty pleasures ..

here are my top 10 guilty pleasures which i love to indulge in:

  • orgasms.  the reason why i am such a great lover in bed (if i have to say so myself ;) ) is because i strive to first pleasure myself.  be it with or without my partner.
  • foot massages.  i must admit that i do beg hubby ever so often to give me a foot massage.  to me my whole being are situated in my feet so to me a foot massage is pure bliss!
  • red wine.  i have to remind myself that red wine is best enjoyed with food, and is not a party drink! i do indulge in this once or twice a day.
  • chocolate.  need i say more??
  • heat magazine.  oh i do love meself a good gossip!
  • facebook.  the world of friends, lovers, ex-lovers, co-workers, stalkers, weirdo’s & freaks all a click of the mouse away!  and what better way to find out what people are up to!
  • makeup and nail polish.  i am a girly girl and love to spoil myself!
  • kissing & cuddling my dogs.  they are my children and i find it very rewarding & soothing drowning them with love.
  • watching E-channel’s fashion police.  i just love that crazy Rivers’ woman catty comments!
  • lying in my hubby’s arms.  to me that is the best place to be.  it is where i am safe.

 

what’s your favourite indulgences?

Published in: on February 21, 2011 at 1:39 pm  Comments (1)  

2011 – the year to let go

dear readers,

it is with great pleasure that i am officialy announcing 2011 as the year to let go of -

  • making peace with who i am:  as a fiery, moody, obsessive, jealous, perfectionist i am accepting myself as the best i can be.
  • accepting that we won’t win the lottery / my husband making tonz of money and i won’t be a stay at home mom.  i will have to work for the rest of my life, and eventually have nothing to show for it.
  • starting to make peace with God:  after my miscarriage i had feelings of anger and “why me” and i am slowly starting to open my heart for Him again.
  • not being a perfectionist!  for me dieting and exercising can be difficult because slipping up with my diet would cause me to cease all attempts at living healthy.  Now i believe in balance and doing little exercise and eating good food. (and NOT dieting!)

with my nature i am always in need to control situations and boss around so hopefully this will open a new, relaxed view of life for me.

Published in: on February 10, 2011 at 6:46 am  Comments (1)  
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